Internet dating sites are the go to for people who are searching for romance. They’re also the go to for scammers who are looking to swindle your money. Today’s post will be about lines romance scammers use.
So, gentlemen, even if you are legitimately seeking a romantic connection, if you are using any of the lines that romance scammers use, the word is out. Delete! Ignore! Block! Pay close attention to the lines romance scammers use and don’t make the mistake of getting confused with some guy sitting in an Internet café in Nigeria.
If you’re a woman – delete these useless posts. Don’t respond. Don’t encourage a romance scammer.
For further reading, see my post Spotting a Romance Scammer by their Online Dating Profile to identify scammers based on how they write their profiles on Internet dating sites.
This post is about the lines romance scammers use when they send out that first message to see if they can “hook” a mark. These scammers want to steal your heart and then your money.
- “Hello Pretty.” Or Beautiful, Sexy, Dear, My Love, Sweet Looking Woman, My Dearest, etc. Women might like compliments from men they know in person. Coming from an unknown guy on the Internet, it’s just creepy. Wait until you’ve known each other in person for awhile before complimenting a woman on her looks or using terms of endearment.
- “You have a nice smile.” Or pretty smile, or beautiful smile, etc. Unless someone has a physical deformity, most people look nice when they smile. A smile shows a person is friendly and approachable. Even if you think someone has a nice smile – don’t say it! Sure sign of a romantic scammer. Same as above. No compliments to someone you don’t know in person. Wait until you meet and then it might be OK to compliment a woman’s smile.
- “I must say…” Only romance scammers talk like that in letters of introduction. It usually goes something like “I must say, you have a pretty smile.” Or “I must say you have a great profile.” Who talks like that? Who says “I must say….?” Romance scammers!
- “Hello.” Or good morning. It’s not a bad opening, but when that’s the entire message… Most women would like to meet a man who can utter more than a word or two. If that’s how you like to start your letter of introduction, that’s fine. Then keep writing. And say something of substance. Women on Internet dating sites get tons of emails. And sometimes even quality emails. She’s not going to waste time on a man who has nothing to say.
- “I just signed up.” Who cares?
- “How long have you been on this dating site?” None of your business!
- They send a lengthy email that is clearly cut and paste and probably full of spelling and grammar errors.
- They want to move away from the dating site’s email system. First introduction letter they provide a phone number or email address and ask you to contact them that way.
- “I love you.” Or “I want to marry you”. Yup some fast movers out there in the world of romance scammers in their first contact.
- “I see we have many interests in common.” OK, so maybe you take a peek at his profile and notice you have NOTHING in common, that is if he even listed any of his interests.
- “I must confess …” usually followed by “you are cute and charming” or some other similar drivel. I must confess? Really? Who speaks like that? Romance scammers that’s who!
- “I’d like to chat with you, if you don’t mind.” I see a lot of “if you don’t mind” in intro messages. Again, if asking for further communication most people don’t say “if you don’t mind”. It’s not like someone says “I’d like to borrow your car, if you don’t mind.” People don’t talk that way.
And how does a woman know that she’s met a legitimate man and not a romance scammer using a line? Well, she probably doesn’t until they meet in person and spend more time together. When it comes to first communications on an email dating site, its very simple how a woman can tell whether or not that man’s a faker.
He hasn’t read her profile. Romantic scammers don’t waste their time reading profiles. They just hit the button to send an email and copy and paste their line.
If you’re a legitimate man seeking a romantic connection and want the woman to respond to you, ask her about something in her profile. If there’s a photo of a pet, ask her the name or the breed. And here it’s probably OK to compliment a woman’s pet, and say: that’s a really cute dog you have, what breed is it? Or you noticed she likes to hike, so ask her where her favourite hiking spot is.
And women, if the man asks you a question about something in your profile, he’s probably read it. That puts him ahead of at least 90% of the men who send you a message. Check out his profile and if he sounds interesting, send him a response.
It’s all as easy as reading her profile and writing an email to prove to her that you did read her profile. That’s the little thing that romance scammers won’t take the time to do.
Timing is everything! One last thing about these Nigerian and Eastern European scammers who set up profiles pretending to be in a location in Canada or America, they aren’t keeping in mind the time difference and send out messages during times when people living in that city would normally be sleeping. Online dating sites send out email notifications to inform the user they’ve received a message. Messages sent at 3 or 4 in the morning are a sure sign that a romance scammer in another country is sending them. If you are legitimately looking for romance, and if you have insomnia, stay off dating sites. Many dating sites also time stamp your visit, and the person who’s profile you’re viewing can see what time you stopped by. Early morning visitors send out the creep vibe.
What lines have romance scammers used on you?